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What is True Friendship?

Friendship is a manifestation of God’s love for you, expressed through your friends. Friendship is the purest of all love. In filial love, in the love of parents for their children, and in the love of lovers there is compulsion. But in true friendship there is no compulsion.

If you open the door to the magnetic power of friendship, souls of like vibration will be attracted to you. The friendlier you become toward all, the more real friends you will have. Cultivate true friendliness, for only thus do you attract true friends.

The divine law of self-expansion

There are people who do not trust anyone, and utterly doubt the possibility of ever having true friends. Some, in fact, actually boast that they get along well without friends.

If you fail to be friendly, you disregard the divine law of self-expansion, by which alone your soul can grow into oneness with Spirit. Friendship is God’s trumpet call, bidding us to destroy the partitions that separate us from all others, and from Him.

No one who fails to inspire love in other hearts can hope to expand his consciousness into cosmic consciousness. If you cannot conquer human hearts, you cannot conquer the Cosmic Heart.

Extend the boundaries of your friendship

True friendship is broad and inclusive. Family love is merely one of the first lessons in the Divine Teacher’s “Course in Friendliness,” intended to prepare your heart for an all-inclusive love. Extend the boundaries of your love to include your neighbors, your community, your country, and all countries.

Consider no one a stranger. Feel that the life-blood of God is circulating in the veins of all races. We are Americans or Hindus for just a few years, but we are God’s children forever. The soul cannot be confined within man-made boundaries.

Be also a cosmic friend, imbued with kindness and affection for all of God’s creation— flowers, birds, animals and all sentient creatures. Such was the example set by Jesus Christ, Swami Shankara, and my Masters.

Friendship should not be influenced by people’s relative positions. Friendship may exist between lovers, employer and employee, teacher and pupil, parents and children, etc.

Mutual service: keynote of friendship

To win the love of friends, you must be useful to them; the greater the mutual service, the deeper the friendship.

True friendship consists in offering good cheer in times of distress, sympathy in sorrow, advice in trouble, and material help in times of real need. Friendship gladly forgoes self-interest for the sake of a friend’s happiness, without consciousness of loss or sacrifice.

Why does Jesus have such a wide following? Because he, like the other great masters, was unequaled in his service to humanity.

An enemy disguised as a friend

True friendship cannot witness with indifference the false, harmful pleasures of a friend. Do not agree with your friend when he is wrong. If you encourage a friend in his vices, you are an enemy disguised as a friend.

This does not mean that you must quarrel. Send suggestions mentally, or if your advice is asked, give it gently and lovingly. Help your friend also by being a mental, esthetic, and spiritual inspiration. Never be sarcastic to a friend and never flatter him, unless to encourage him.

Finding friends of past incarnations

There are people you meet who give you the immediate feeling that you have known them always. This indicates that they are friends of previous incarnations.

Do not neglect them, but work to strengthen the friendship between you. Be on the lookout for them always, as your restless mind may fail to recognize them. Often they are very near you, drawn by the friendship born in the dim, distant past.

Do not be deceived by physical beauty

Overeating and lack of exercise will often distort a friend’s features, and he may thus escape your recognition. A fat, distorted body may harbor a real friend. Sometimes a beautiful woman will fall in love with an ugly man, or a handsome man, with a physically unattractive woman, due to the loving friendship of a past incarnation.

Therefore, do not be deceived by physical beauty. It is more important to ascertain whether you and the other person are mentally and spiritually congenial, whether your tastes and inclinations essentially agree. Delve deeply into the other person’s mind and guard against being prejudiced by little peculiarities.

Bright soul galaxies

Seek your friends of past incarnations so that you may continue your friendship in this life and perfect it into divine friendship. One lifetime is not always sufficient to achieve such perfection.

Friends of past incarnations constitute your shining collection of soul jewels. Add to it constantly. In these bright soul galaxies you will behold the one Great Friend radiantly smiling at you.

The antidote to all hatred

There are people you see each day for whom you feel no sympathy. Learn to adapt to them, and to love them. Always practice loving those who do not love you, feeling for those who do not feel for you, and being generous to those who are generous only to themselves.

The heart’s love is the antidote to all hatred. If someone is broadcasting hatred to you and you are tuned to that hatred, you will receive it, but if you are tuned to love, the hateful vibrations will not touch you.

You need not fawn on an enemy, but silently be of service to him whenever he is in need. If humility and apologies on your part bring out your enemy’s good qualities, by all means apologize.

The person who can do this will have attained a certain spiritual development, for it takes character to be able to apologize graciously and sincerely. Do not, however, encourage a wrong doer by being humble and apologetic.

To be a true friend to all, you must learn to see that God is just as much in your enemy as in your closest friend. Constant contact with the Infinite in meditation will fill you with divine love, which alone enables you to love your enemies.

The canopy of perfected friendship

True friendship lies in seeking soul progress together, culminating in perfect divine friendship. Perfect friendship between two individuals or among the members of a spiritual group becomes an open door of unity through which other souls can enter and evolve toward perfection.

When the canopy of your perfected friendship includes all souls and all creation— the busy stars, the whippoorwill, the dumb stones, the shining sea sands— you will lift the veils that hide God from your sight.

The Divine Friend will then rejoice to welcome you home after the wanderings of countless incarnations, and you and He will merge in the bliss of eternal friendship.

1. Don’t be totally consumed by each other: You don’t have to spend every single second with your significant other.
2. Show each other how much you care about each other, and make it obvious: Guys cannot take a hint, but guys have to be direct with girls so that there are no misunderstandings.
3. Communication (this one is vital): This is vital for healthy relationships. If there is a misunderstanding or miscommunication, handle the situation with care because it can easily turn into a huge fight.
4. Let your yes be yes: When you say you’re going to do something together stick to it (unless there is a terrible situation that is occurring). Do not make plans and then disappoint your significant other, it’s a recipe for fights.
5. Guys should treat the girl: It is a sign of the male’s appreciation towards the female, so even if the female likes to go Dutch insist on paying for her food (this might even impress her more). This is what proves to the female that she is more important to him than any other girl.
6. Give each other space: If the significant other wants to be alone let them, if you try to approach they may actually try to pull away (unless it is obvious that they need to talk to someone).
7. Treat each other with respect- this means that guys appreciate the girl for who she is and not what she looks like, and girls don’t gossip about every little thing the guy does wrong. This also means that you should not try to embarrass your significant other in front of other people.
8. Talk about common interests: If the girl is not comfortable with bodily functions, then guys should not talk about bodily functions. Talk about things that appeal to the both of you.
9. Get in a couple of debates: I do not mean fights. See what the other person believes about certain issues. This can help you if you are in a serious relationship because, for example, you both disagree and a large issue, such as abortion, it may cause several difficulties if married.
10. Be affectionate: I do not mean go all out. I mean give hugs and simple means of affection. Emotional support is a huge help, and it help with communication as well. Give compliments often.
11. Help each other: For example, if your significant other had a long day at work and you had plenty of free time you could cook them dinner.
12. Be there for each other (mainly talking to men): This sort of runs hand-in-hand with “let your yes be yes,” but this time I mean that if your significant other has numerous events they are in (like a piano recitals or fashion shows) it means a lot to them if you come to the event, but it mean even more if you come to all the events (if there are multiple ones).
13. Notice small things (for women): Watch how the male treats his mother, this could be a sign of how he may treat you if anything permanent turns out. (for men) watch how the female responds to certain situations and take notice of what she is sensitive towards.
14. As time goes on, gifts build up: When you first start dating it is nice to give a little gift now and then. Give a little something for Christmas and their birthday. But the more time you are together the nicer the gifts become. Both of you may have to establish when to give gifts (which helps with communication). The male should give the nicer gift, once again, to show how much he appreciates the female.
15. Come up with fun, cheap dates: Finances can lead to a few minor complications. A way to have fun with each other is to put your minds together and come up with fun creative dates you would both enjoy. This helps with communication as well, because if one of the two does not want to do something they need to speak up.
16. Introduce: If anything permanent happens (like marriage) it is very important the male is friends with all the female’s friends, and visa versa. This will prevent a lot of gossip and conflicts.
17. Grow together: This is by far the biggest point. Each couple should grow together spiritually. What keeps a marriage intact is when two people grow in Christ together, this is because they learn to forgive each other and they don’t keep track of the wrong doings of the other.

There is an end to all things, No matter how much we want to hold on to them.

It’s so important to hold on to the memories, and yet sometimes you just have to wonder whether the memories are the things that are holding you back.

Everything changes eventually. That’s just the way life is and you have no control over it. Like suddenly people who you think are always going to be there, they disappear. You know? People die and they move away and they grow up. Everything changes eventually

There are moments that mark your life; moments when you realize nothing will ever be the same. And time is divided into two parts, before this and after this. Now sometimes you can feel such a moment coming. That’s the test…. Or so I tell myself, I tell myself at times like these strong people keep moving forward anyway, no matter what there gonna find.

Whenever I think of the past, it brings back so many memories.

I wish I would have known I’d lose you, cause I would of held onto you so damn tight even God couldn’t have pulled you away.

There is no greater pain than in misery, to remember happy times.

And I can’t stop thinking about, About the way things used to be…

People say not to cry because it’s over, but to smile because it happened, but how can you do that, when just thinking of the good times make you cry because you realize what you are missing.

Moving on is simple; it’s what we leave behind that’s hard

I’ve learned that good-byes will always hurt, pictures never replace having been there, memories good or bad will bring tears, and words can never replace feeling.

People you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

You go through life collecting the people, things and places you love most and that are your heaven.

Sometimes the hardest things to let go are the things you never really had

I never knew it hurt so much to lose something I never had.

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from you dreams and hug them for real

In 3 words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on!

A million words won’t bring you back I know because I tried
A million tears won’t bring you back I know because I cried

What’s meant to be will always find a way.

A smile lasts a flash but memories last a lifetime

Laugh today because you might be crying tomorrow

I knew that I’d look back at my tears and laugh…but I never thought that I’d look back and my laughter and cry.

Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can pretty much change your life forever.

The terrible thing about hell, is that when your there you can’t even tell.  As you move through this life that you love so, you could be there and not even know.  You say  "so what, I’m doing just fine".  The irony is that it’s all in your mind that is why hell is so vicious and cruel, because you’ll just go on an oblivious fool.

The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.

Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong, others think it’s letting go.

You know they don’t care when they don’t even bother to ask why you’re crying

When you want to hold someone.  You got to hold them like it’s the last minute of your life.

I won’t look back, I won’t regret.  Though it hurts like hell.  Someday I will forget…

Advice is what we seek for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t

You can’t hold on to something that doesn’t want to be held on too

Its true…no matter how happy you are now or how far away, you will always dream of going back.

Don’t let the past hold you back, you’re missing the good stuff.

Life’s short.  If you don’t look around once in a while you might miss it.

Everything is okay in the end.  If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.

Good-bye’s make you think. They make you realize what you’ve had and what you’ve lost, and what you’ve taken for granted.

Sometimes there is no next time, no time outs, no second chances, sometimes it’s now or never…

So many are afraid to say the word "hello" because it often leads to the word "goodbye."

Everything (I mean everything) happens for a reason (trust me). So whenever something really bad happens (be strong) and take any positives with you that you can because someday (eventually) you’ll realize why it happened and you’ll be stronger (100 times stronger) because you took the positives …

Sometimes you got to deal with a lot of storms before you find your rainbow

The hardest part about moving on is not looking back

The best way to say something is to just say it.

It’s too far away for me to hold… guess I’ll let it go.

The most important things are the hardest things to say.

You’ll never know how much I need you; you won’t see it in my face
You’ll never know I’ll never find another person that could take your place,
Cause I’ll be smiling when I see you, no my tears won’t ever show,
Yeah I might always care 4 you, but you’ll never know.

It’s time to let you go, its time to say goodbye,
No more excuses, no more tears to cry,
There’s been so many changes, I’ve been so confused,
All along you were the one, all the time I never knew.

I wanna run away, and never say goodbye
I wanna know the truth, instead of wondering why
I wanna know the answers, no more lies
I wanna shut the door, and open up my mind

Sharing, caring, understanding…
Not desperately seeking the waver to pass
To go were you’ve never gone
To UN-conceal love’s skin
To share a brief moment in time
To release a little sin
Leaving the next morning
Never to talk again…

cybercritz@yahoo.com -tina